3 MONTH MENTORSHIP
ONE MAN.
You don't need more information. You need someone to go through it with you.
“The moment a man stops blaming others is the moment his life actually begins.”
- Thomas Backhausen
WHAT IS ONE MAN
This is not a course.
This is a container.
One Man is a 3-month 1:1 mentorship for men who are done repeating the same patterns — in relationships, in how they show up, in how they see themselves. We go deep. We go slow where we need to. And we don't stop until something real has shifted.
THE JOURNEY
Three months. Three phases.
MONTH ONE
See it clearly.
Change isn't just about stopping old habits. It's about building the version of yourself that doesn't need those habits anymore. Month three is about anchoring that man.
Define what a healthy relationship looks like for you
Build real self-worth — not performance
Leave with a clear sense of who you are and where you're going
MONTH TWO
Break what isn’t working.
This is where the real work happens. We challenge the stories you've been telling yourself and start replacing them with something more honest — and more useful.
Challenge the beliefs that run your life
Develop emotional awareness and regulation
Learn to communicate as the man you want to be
MONTH THREE
Build what’s next.
Before you can change a pattern, you have to understand it. We start by mapping your landscape — where you are, how you got here, and what keeps pulling you back.
Identify your core relationship patterns
Understand where they come from
Stop the blame — start the ownership
WHAT’S INCLUDED
Everything you need. Nothing you don’t.
One session every two weeks over Zoom. Each session is structured but leaves room for what actually needs to be talked about.
Access between sessions for quick check-ins, reflections, and accountability. You're not alone in the weeks between calls.
No generic templates. We build a framework around your specific patterns, your life, and where you want to go.
Exercises, reflections, and practical tools you can use between sessions — and long after the three months are over.
This is for you if -
You keep ending up in the same place, no matter how hard you try
You want to be a better partner — or understand why relationships keep falling apart
You're willing to look at yourself honestly, even when it's uncomfortable
You're tired of theory. You want something to actually shift.
You're ready to invest real time and energy in yourself
You're looking for quick fixes or life hacks
You want someone to tell you what you want to hear
You're not willing to take responsibility for your part
You're in acute crisis and need clinical support
This is not for you if -
HOW IT WORKS
Three steps to get started.
Send me an email or book a free 30-minute intro call. No commitment. Just a conversation to see if this is the right fit for both of us.
We talk. You tell me where you are. I tell you how I work. If it feels right, we agree on a start date and the investment. If not, that's okay too.
First session within two weeks. From here, we go at the pace that actually serves you — not a rigid curriculum.
ABOUT THOMAS
I’ve been that man
I'm a Danish entrepreneur living in Costa Rica. I've built businesses, lost them, and built again. I've been in relationships where I thought I gave everything that my partner needed and understood nothing — about myself or the other person.
Five years of working with plant medicine, and years of doing the inner work, changed how I see myself and how I show up. I'm not a therapist. I'm a man who's been through it and came out the other side with a clearer map.
I coach in Danish and English. I work with a small number of men at a time — because this kind of work deserves real attention.
Ready to begin?
The first conversation is free. The change starts when you say yes.
Coaching in English or Danish · Online via Zoom · Limited spots available